Ten year anniversaries of your birth date are always exciting and are a definite cause for celebration!
When you get one of those milestones, pause and look back at what you have gone through, how successful you have been and what you have enjoyed. Some people can be a little daunted by this milestone as they fear that they may not have been as successful as they should and still further, wonder where they will be in 10 years time.
We should all reflect on our stage in life, where we are personally, financially and emotionally. And sometimes the woman who is raising her family when she reaches the big four-oh may reflect a bit on her sex appeal and wonder whether she has still “got it!”
It’s very true to say that we all become more philosophical as we age. This is a consequence of being able to reflect on many of life’s rich experiences and in many cases knowing how to put these experiences into practice. Each decade milestone will find us in a very different place in our book of life and we will look back on our memories in a different way and look forward to what we have ahead of us with a fresh perspective. As such, considering whether you are sexy or not as a 40-something mum will undoubtedly unveil a whole list of different answers than it would if you were 30.
Those of us who have experienced and loved being a 40-year-old mum, know that our sexuality owes a lot to our maturity, from an emotional and mental perspective. Dignity comes naturally at this age and those elements of insecurity seem so far away.
We are much more composed, and know how to deal with any situation when it arises by displaying a sassy attitude, allowing us to feel inherently good about ourselves and to resolve problems with a lot more ease.
Thankfully, professional coaching solutions exist for mums at every stage of their life journey and can often help us to come to terms with our milestones. The word “sexy” means different things to different people and will certainly have its own interpretation in your eyes.
Maturity teaches us to celebrate everything we have, and make the most of how we look, even though we will certainly be different today than we were back then. For example, do as the old screen sirens did – learn how you look better in certain lights and always present your best side to a camera! As each year goes by, you will become more mentally and emotionally secure and as a consequence, much sexier.
Be secure in your status and believe in yourself and what you have achieved. Your children are a great reflection of you and you should be proud or both them and your partner. You have to love yourself before anyone else and this is at the essence of making life enjoyable. In most cases, online life coaching experts can be consulted whenever you are feeling a little down about those upcoming big milestones, so important to everyone else!
Remember that life begins at 40 and when coaching for women in this position I often remind them that the biggest favour they can do themselves is to think and act “young.” Ask yourself this question – if you didn’t know what your actual age was, how old would you think you were? And no, it isn’t “90”! Fabulous 40 mum, go and get them!
Amanda Alexander, Director of Coaching Mums, helps pressure-cooked, stressed working mums who long for more hours in the day. Through her coaching programmes and online life coaching courses, Amanda shows mums how to create fulfilling and successful lives. For your simple 5 step guide to balance as a working mum, download our free eBook today!
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