Effective Communication Skills

One of the biggest things that people need to focus on in this life is communication skill. Without proper communication skill, one is still able to do many things, but they will be destined to do everything alone.

Some people might consider being alone to be a great blessing, but these people tend to be misanthropes - those people that detest others, such as the great Sherlock Holmes’s brother - or perhaps they are too shy and conversing with others is painful and scary for them. But often people want to foster a better communication skill for everything they do: waking up, eating breakfast, communication in relationship, playing poker or hearts, bowling, football, and of course popsicle licking. Communication is an essential part of popsicle licking.

The fact is that it is extremely important to have communication skill. This is the reason why there have been so many books on communication. Books on communication come in all shapes in sizes, from How to Win Friends and Influence People, to Communication in Relationship For Dummies. Of course just reading books on communication will help somewhat, but invariably what one needs to increase their communication skill is to get out into the real world and practice.

I’ve found that the best place to practice the art of conversing is some place where people always gather. Some place such as the super market, the hardware store, or perhaps a library.

One should choose one’s community library in which to practice. Not only do they have people there, but if you start to find yourself unsure of how to properly communicate to someone the sentiment: I think you’re pleasant to look at and will most likely be fun to enjoy a pleasant conversation with on the subject of dried plums & apricots, you can always go check out one of their many books on communication for help.

One of the books on communication is sure to tell you that when saying ‘hello’ to somebody you wish to converse with, it is important to have friendly facial gestures. Proper communication skill dictates that one should have most likely a smile, or a nice simple half-smile on one’s face when saying hello.

However not all smiles are equal. If you smile like either The Joker from Batman or the Cheshire cat, your communication skill practice will most likely end at ‘hello’, and your communication will then (most likely) be followed by the other person practicing their ‘cease communication skill’ mainly the ignore technique. If this happens to you, simply give up, walk away and try another person.

Once you succeed in getting a response to your attempts to open communication, simply follow up your hello by telling them what your name is, hobbies you’re interested in, and perhaps how you feel it is important to cut your toenails every 2 weeks, no more, no less. Be sure to ask the person you’re talking to many different questions. People liked to be asked questions about their life. Subjects such as cheese or your opinion on NASA are generally good topics to stick to while practicing your communication skill. Be sure to steer the topic away from any felonies you’ve committed in the past. Although 99% people have committed felonies, typically they don’t wish to discuss said felonies. To do so would be considered bragging, which is a big ‘no-no’ in the world of communication skill.

by Christian Farmer

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What Are communication skills? And Why Do You Ask…?

When people ask, “What are communication skills?” they often don’t understand the many elements that make up communication. They know that writing and speaking is communication, but they don’t understand the role perceptions and experience play in the process. They also are unaware of the many nonverbal clues that are transmitted during a conversation.

Perceptions result from life experiences. How you react to a message depends on your perception of the meaning in the message. Good communication skills include an awareness of how the receiver might be interpreting your message. Other communication skills include the following.

* Being a good listener during a conversation
* Asking questions for clarification
* Restating the information
* Giving feedback
* Using tact in a non-argumentative manner
* Body language including posture
* Using good eye contact
* Respecting personal space
* Awareness of cultural differences
* Offering praise
* Using humor
* Developing good written skills

An important component of developing effective communication skills is self-image. How you see yourself affects the kind of communication style you develop. For example, if you are called shy all your life you will probably develop a passive style. To enhance communication skills means being more aware of yourself as a communicator.

Business leaders are aware of the impact of communication skills on employee performance and productivity. A company that wants to maximize profits will be attuned to the need for open communication channels and good employee communication skills. Organizations are in constant change as they adapt to rapidly changing markets. As a result, managers must not only encourage employee communication, they must be adept at communicating change.

Organizational change is never easy, but the process is greatly simplified through clear and concise communication.

* Identify the exact changes to be made and construct explanation that can be properly conveyed
* Involve all the appropriate people in the change process
* Communicate progress regularly with employees
* Establish a realistic timeline
* Create new communication paths when necessary
* Utilized technology to streamline communication paths
* Allow employee input

Communicating change does not have to be traumatic for employees if the manager prepares for the change and shares appropriate information. Embracing change can be exciting as a company moves forward into the future. Asking the question, “What are communication skills?” may very well yield the answer, “It’s an important part of change!”

by Raymond James

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Three Categories Of Human Communication

Your words and behavior tell people a lot about you. Exactly what are your words and behaviors indicating about you? Human communication and behavior fall into three basic categories:

Passiveness; Aggressiveness; Assertiveness.

Passiveness is a reluctance or inability to confidently express what you think and feel. In the past, our society rewarded women for being passive and men for being aggressive. But as gender roles change and women voice their concerns openly, this is changing. Men or women can be passive in their approach to communication.

Aggressive communication and behavior, whether direct or indirect, results in a put-down of the other person, making her feel hurt, defensive and humiliated. Aggressive behavior does not take the other person’s goals or feelings into account. Only the aggressor’s goals are met. This often generates bitterness and frustration that later returns as resistance and dissension. Think of a time when someone used aggressive communication at the expense of another person. How would you feel about approaching such a person? Aggression intimidates, demeans and degrades another person. Just as in passivity, men or women can be aggressive communicators.

Assertiveness is an alternative to the extremes of passiveness and aggressiveness. It is being confident in expressing what you think, feel and believe, standing up for your rights while respecting the rights of others. Assertion is rooted in respect: respect for yourself and for the other person. People tend to cooperate when they are approached or advised in a way that respects the needs of both parties. Assertive communication frequently allows both persons to get what they want.

Assertive communication is what healthy communication is based on. Relationship, whether personal or professional, should strive to be good communicators using assertiveness in healthy ways.

Sandra L. Brown
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by Sandra L. Brown, M.A

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Every part of our business and life requires negotiation skills. The ability to negotiate will increase our successes, open up opportunities, and improve relationships.

Negotiating skills are not part of this country’s formal education, though negotiation is used more often than math skills, every day. These skills create the core of our professional and personal lives.

The importance of negotiation is drastically underestimated in today’s work world. Strong negotiation skills are needed to succeed in life.

What is Negotiation?

There are three parts to negotiation: communication style, personality type, goals. Each of these elements need to be balanced between the two people negotiating before anyone can manipulate a desirable outcome.

Negotiating is simply “working with other to achieve some beneficial result.” It is one of those skills that takes a few hours to learn and a lifetime to master. It is not a genetic trait we’re born with, like athletic or artistic ability. No matter what education level or social position, the negotiation skills are not beyond your capabilities.

It just takes time, a little education, attention to honing our skills, and your life will be better.

Negotiation is not the art of manipulating another person. Negotiation is a type of collaboration, even if you need to convince the other person that it is in their best interest to work together. Manipulation is forcing your goals and opinions on another person.

Communication Styles

There are four communication styles. Each of these are combined with four personality groups. The communication style is their ability to articulate their wants and needs.

A good communicator can identify a person’s personality type and communication style. The communication style a negotiator uses does not necessarily match the audience’s, but the audience will find it familiar and be comfortable using it.

Some communication styles are directly to the point, void of facts. Others layout the facts, letting the audience come to their own opinion before the negotiator offers their opinion or goal. Using the wrong communication style can make the audience feel like they are being ’sold’ or coerced.

Personality Type

The personality type determines what the audience considers a strong enough motivation to change their plans work with you. The negotiator will use the audience’s values and goals to speak using a language, motives, goals, and values their audience will find appealing.

The audience’s personality type will also determine how long the presentation is, and what props the negotiator uses. An artistic person will like to see slides. A driver personality will want facts and figures they can take away with them.

Goals
The expert negotiator does not focus on their goals, but the audience’s goals. The art of negotiating is making the audience believe that they are coming out on top of the agreement, without the negotiator begging or selling.

Goals are often motivated by people’s desire for relationships, building wealth, improving security, feeling good about yourself, and achieving a socially ‘higher’ goal. A negotiator will use these goals to ’speak’ to the audience and help them reach their goals by reaching their own goals.

Objective

Negotiating is not a forceful encounter. Act collaboratively, not competitively. It is not “me against you.” The other person is a bargaining partner. Everyone must come away with a benefit, or the party who has nothing to loose will leave. This is seen when men fall in love. The court a woman until she marries them, treating her as the object of their love, instead of an equal partner who must continually be courted. We see this in business when one company merges with another, and then guts the minor company, leaving the remaining workers feeling wounded.

It is a big mistake to think you can use negotiations to get something for nothing. When negotiating, present your case as if both parties are on equal ground. Everyone can succeed at negotiating if they make “Mutual Benefit” their mantra.

Summary

There are many places to learn how to negotiate, about communication styles, and personality styles. Learning to listen can also give you an edge. Pro negotiators spend more time listening instead of talking. They do not cut-their-own-throats by cutting off the audience why their ideas and goals are wrong, or poorly motivated. They do not finish the audience’s sentences. And, in the end, they earn the audience’s trust, the first goal of any pro negotiator.
by Mark Walters

Mark Walters is a third generation entrepreneur and author. He offers free training and investing videos designed to speed you towards financial independence at http://www.cashflowinstitute1.com/Articles.html

Communication is one of the most important qualities for success. To communicate is not simple. We think that to speak and to hear is communication. But it is much more than that. When you listen to somebody, ask yourself these questions - are you totally attentive to him/her? Are you attentive to the tone of voice? Are you keeping eye contact? Do you observe the body language? Are you giving responses in between so that the speaker knows that you rare listening? Are you getting the hidden meaning behind the communication? In brief, are you getting precisely what the other person is saying?
What about your speech? What kind of tone do you adopt? What is the speed of your speech? Are you using the correct words? How are you coordinating your body language with your words? Are you getting the attention of your listener? Are you able to convey what you want to? Are you sure that the listener is getting your message?
Many of us are poor communicators. We don’t know how to talk and listen effectively. We fail to draw the listener’s attention towards our self. We fail to listen fully. There lies our failure in many business and personal situations.
Please test your communication style. Talk to few of your friends and ask them questions about your style. Note what they say very carefully and bring changes. Talk to them again after few days and reassess yourself. Keep improving. Notice the best speakers on television. Watch their body movements and tonality of voice. Observe them carefully. Good communication will bring unbelievable success to you. To learn more about communication and how to improve it, please try these quizzes - What is your communication style?, Are you boring? and Do you criticize others too much?
by CD Mohatta
CD Mohatta writes for personality tests and quizzes, business and career tests and quizzesand love and dating quizzes.

One of the most important aspects of a successful relationship is effective communication between both parties. Lack of communication in a relationship can result in hasty decisions that can even lead to separation. We need to understand the reasons behind communication breakdown and how they can be avoided to ensure a fulfilling relationship.

Sometimes stress of work makes a person withdrawn, reserved and easily irritated. They dont like to discuss anything with their partners. Financial problems can also be the cause of communication breakdown between two people. When they try to resolve issues, their arguments result in more problems and eventually they stop discussing things. Many couples start hiding their personal problems from each other. They are afraid that if they opened up they will irritate their partner even more and therefore they choose to keep quiet. Remember that lack of communication is the first step towards a failed marriage.

Sometimes mistrust and doubts about your partners loyalty result in communication breakdown. You silently start observing their actions and dont make any effort of discussing your doubts with them. Sometimes when some third party gets involved in two peoples personal matters they make it a point to open up only in front of that third person instead of discussing things between themselves. Always try to resolve your problems yourself.

When you dont live together for a long time it also results in lack of communication and eventually total breakdown. If your partner has to live somewhere else, make sure you two talk on a regular basis and never let distance come in the way of your love. Its true that these kinds of relationships are hard to manage but once you have a made a decision you have to stick with it no matter what happens or how physically distant you are.

Birth of the first baby is also sometimes a cause of communication lapse between the partners. The mother has to give more and ore time to the baby and the father has to spend more and more time in the office. As a result they get a chance to talk after a long pause and when that happens there are complaints and disagreements over trivial issues. Sometimes they argue over what the baby needs and how it should be handled and cared for. When things get out of control they stop their communication altogether and become withdrawn.

Reasons behind lack of communication vary from couple to couple, but the important thing is you shouldnt let these problems come in the way of your relationship. Always talk things out between yourselves before they get worse and never let lack of communication lead to misunderstandings and distrust in any relationship.
by George Wood

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Interpersonal communication is something most of us do on a daily basis, although we may not be aware that is what it is called.

Interpersonal communication differs from other forms of communication in various ways. It is also very important in development.

The following list outlines what interpersonal communication is and what some of the characterizes are. It also explains why we need it.

1. What is it?

Interpersonal communication involves a close group of participants. It is basically the everyday conversations you carry on and it includes speeches, general friendly exchanges, arguments and basically anytime you speak to someone.

2. How is it different than other forms of communication?

Interpersonal communication involves face to face encounters. You are talking in person not over a computer, phone or through written information. You can get immediate responses.

You are also able to benefit from body language. You hear a voice where you can pick up on different dialects and speech patterns.

3. How does interpersonal communication vary?

The variances in interpersonal communication involve the people and situations. You communicate differently with someone you know well verses a stranger. You will have different topics of conversation when talking to your preacher or your best friend.

These variations make interpersonal communication flexibility important for difference circumstances.

4. How do we use interpersonal communication?

We use interpersonal communication for a variety of reasons. You use it to learn new information, such as when asking questions. You use it to share information, such as when telling a story. You use it to define yourself, such as when giving a speech.

You also use it to fulfill the natural need for contact with other people. Interpersonal communication is how we develop from infant to adult. We learn about different cultures and languages through interpersonal communication as well. It gives you a human element, a real nature that other forms of communication can not provide.

5. Why is interpersonal communication important?

Interpersonal communication is important because you need it to develop throughout the stages of life. You get so much from interpersonal communication.

You learn, teach and get an identity through interpersonal communication. You also share with others who you are. You need interpersonal communication to learn how to pronounce words correctly, how to speak properly in certain situations and how to communicate in general.

Interpersonal communication has taken a back seat to other forms of communication in recent years. More people than ever are using the internet to exchange information and make contact with others.

We must also be sure to keep interpersonal communication in our lives. Without it babies will never learn to talk properly and we can never expand our language abilities through learning form others speech. The spoken word should never have its importance underestimated.
by Peter Murphy

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Do you have difficulty in starting conversation and maintaining the interests of the people you are speaking with? Or are you unable to convey your message properly among your co-workers or friends. Or you face a problem of not being able to interpret what the other person wants from you? Then do not worry as you belong to one of the larger group of people on this earth who need to improve communication skill.

But wait! You should take steps to improve your communication. Improved communication can improve your personal as well as working relationships.

Communication is usually taken for granted, that is, until it breaks down. Why did not my teacher get my point? How can I get my counselor to understand what I am saying? Why does every discussion with my mom turn into an argument? Improved communication help you express your ideas clearly, learn from other people, and resolve any conflicts. Most of these skills you’ll pick up with life experience. Here are a few tips to improve communication skills.

A powerful way to improve communication is to step into others shoes. In the film ‘Freaky Friday’, a mother and teenage daughter exchange bodies. It is a hilarious comedy where they both get to experience what it is like to be the other person and in their situation. Stepping into other people’s shoes enables great communication to take place, even under difficult circumstances. Many of the problems we experience on a daily basis are due to either a lack of, or poor communication.

One of the best ways to improve communication and break down any barriers is to understand other people. Once we truly consider things from the perspectives of others and understand what inspires them, their beliefs and fears etc, interpersonal relationships improve dramatically. These relationships include: Intimate relationship with spouse or partner, parent and child, co-workers, managers and team, peers, clients and potential clients.

Another way to improve communication is by being clear. Make sure you understand what you want to say before you start. Explain the context of your point so your listener clearly understands why you’re talking to them, use simple words and language to express your point.

Another important tip to improve communication is to stay positive. Phrase your ideas and suggestions in a positive, rather than critical way. Be confident. Do not assume that what you have to say isn’t worthwhile. Keep in mind, a listener’s silence doesn’t necessarily mean consent or disapproval. It may just mean that the person needs to think about a response before answering.

One more method to improve communication is to listen actively. Make sure you understand what the other person is trying to say. And see if you got it. Do not get so preoccupied planning what you will say next that you do not pay attention. Keep an open mind. Be flexible about compromises and alternate solutions. Speak with self-control do not just say the first response that comes to mind

Last but not the least learn from experience. Review situations in which you had to communicate with different people, such as a friend, parent, or a study group.

To reduce misunderstandings and hassles of poor communication with your team, friends, family one must improve communication. Improved communication lead to strong and healthy personal and working relationships.
by John Khu

John Khu is an experience entrepreneur and internet marketer. He specializes in communication development and personal happiness.

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Today communication is a multimillion-dollar business. The advances men have made in the technical field of communication is indeed staggering, to say the least. For example, fiber-optic cables, that can carry tens of thousands of phone conversations at one time. Then there are communication satellites, which relay thousands of pieces of information in seconds.
But in spite of all these means of communication, there is no limit to the misery in the world because of a lack of communication between individuals. Is there any surprise then that we are faced with what has been called a ever growing” generation gap?” A lack of communication between parents and their offspring, and sadly between parents themselves. Marriage counselors report that the biggest problem in marriages is a failure of communication between husband and wife. To keep the lines of communication open, it is the obligation of each to listen to what the other is saying, and to notice what has been left unsaid. This can only be done if we give our full attention to the one speaking. Sometimes we are so occupied with formulating what our response will be, that we fail to recognize the emotional content, and the way something is said. As husbands we need to recognize this is a common shortcoming we share. Wives often suffer because husbands fail to listen. However wives for their part also need to listen closely, so as not to jump to wrong conclusions.
As we grow older this places an added burden on our open communication. We face many changes with age. Physical weakness drains our energy and vigor. Every time we pass a mirror we are reminded we are getting older. Sadly our memory is not as sharp as it was. If we are not careful we can easily become depressed. All or any of the above can affect our communication with our loved ones. Realizing this should encourage each one to work that much harder at keeping the lines of communication open, honest and reasonable. The more we fail to communicate the larger our problems seem to get. In five minutes of communicating you can solve more problems then five minutes of avoiding one another. Take the time, and in many cases make the time and master the art of communication.
Remember, good communication is an art. Why not become a good artist?
by Don McKay
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In the I-HR newsletter, moderator Beth N. Carvin asked if the idea of branding could be used effectively to improve productivity and retention. This is an expanded version of my response to her question:
Yes, I think you can use the idea of branding as a tool for improving employee productivity and retention.
Let’s approach it from the perspective of a manager communicating with his or her subordinates. If the manager sets out to build a positive reputation over time and over a series of messages, then we might say he or she is embarking on a branding exercise. It’s an attempt to create the trust and goodwill necessary to have messages both accepted and acted upon.
Marketers branding products do essentially the same thing: send out a series of messages designed to build a positive reputation over time.
And, when messages to employees generate trust and goodwill, then communication sent after that can be used communication to increase productivity and retention.
For example, in publishing employee newsletters for my corporate clients, I’ve always emphasized the need to provide articles and information of value to readers (the employees). By doing that, employees come to see their company newsletter as a useful resource, and not management propaganda. That, in turn, opens the door to asking employees to do or not do certain things (safety measures, for instance), and getting a positive response from them.
In a sense, referring to this process of building trust and goodwill as branding might be just a semantic exercise. However, I think that when we put a name to a process, we make it easier to comprehend and follow. And, that may be the real value of referring to branding in the context of employee communication.
Let’s also look at this issue in a broader sense, too, because it’s important to remember the different roles of communication in productivity and retention. Three generic types of communication figure in our thinking: instructional, contextual, and motivational.
Instructional communication provides information that helps others do their jobs more efficiently. Contextual communication provides the bigger picture, which should help recipients do their jobs more effectively. And motivational communication shows recipients the benefits of responding as we’ve requested.
To build trust and goodwill, the instructional communication should be accurate, timely, and functional. The people who receive our messages should be able to act on them, and know they can act on them with confidence.
The contextual communication should be relevant and helpful. It should put the issue into a framework that helps others understand how specific tasks or issues fit into the strategic flow.
And, the motivational communication should focus on them, not on you. It should show them the importance of their contributions.
In summary, think of branding as the process of building trust and goodwill, a process that makes it possible to increase productivity and retention through communication.
by Robert F. Abbott
Robert F. Abbott, the author A Manager’s Guide to Newsletters: Communicating for Results, writes and publishes Abbott’s Communication Letter, a free newsletter that helps you enhance your career through improved business communication. Discover more here: http://www.abbottletter.com