Effective Communication Skills

Naturally people fall into one of two communication styles - the apssive and the aggressive. None of these styles are as effective as the assertive communication style, whish is a style, and skill that can be learned. This article gives an overview of these three communication styles.
Three Categories of Communication

Three Categories Of Human Communication

Your words and behavior tell people a lot about you. Exactly what are your words and behaviors indicating about you? Human communication and behavior fall into three basic categories:

Passiveness; Aggressiveness; Assertiveness.

Passiveness is a reluctance or inability to confidently express what you think and feel. In the past, our society rewarded women for being passive and men for being aggressive. But as gender roles change and women voice their concerns openly, this is changing. Men or women can be passive in their approach to communication.

Aggressive communication and behavior, whether direct or indirect, results in a put-down of the other person, making her feel hurt, defensive and humiliated. Aggressive behavior does not take the other person’s goals or feelings into account. Only the aggressor’s goals are met. This often generates bitterness and frustration that later returns as resistance and dissension. Think of a time when someone used aggressive communication at the expense of another person. How would you feel about approaching such a person? Aggression intimidates, demeans and degrades another person. Just as in passivity, men or women can be aggressive communicators.

Assertiveness is an alternative to the extremes of passiveness and aggressiveness. It is being confident in expressing what you think, feel and believe, standing up for your rights while respecting the rights of others. Assertion is rooted in respect: respect for yourself and for the other person. People tend to cooperate when they are approached or advised in a way that respects the needs of both parties. Assertive communication frequently allows both persons to get what they want.

Assertive communication is what healthy communication is based on. Relationship, whether personal or professional, should strive to be good communicators using assertiveness in healthy ways.

Sandra L. Brown
Psychotherapist & Author
www.HowToSpotADangerousMan.com

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by Sandra L. Brown, M.A

Sandra L. Brown, M.A. is a psychotherapist & author who specializes in relationships and reducing dangerous interactions, including in the workplace. www.SafeRelationships.com, www.HowToSpotADangerousMan.com, wwww.WomenWhoLovePsychopaths.com